Stacks for Racks!

Tonight was the Trapper's II event "Stacks for Racks" and it was a huge success. We raised $1000 for our Cure or Bust Race for the Cure team and Cancer Control Division in Radiation Oncology at the University of Rochester. My sweet friend Luke is a researcher there and they are doing some fantastic studies on joint pain. I am looking forward to taking a tour soon and eating a garbage plate, well I want to see the hospital really! 

I can not begin to tell you what tonight was for me. This whole journey, my girlfriends have been with me every step of the way, some right now on my heels! But tonight their husbands showed me some crazy support. Yes, it was poker and yes there was beer involved and yes they won some money and YES they stayed until the kids were in bed. The reality is that they would not have been there if they didn't  care about me or my rack. A special thanks to Brent's  dad Tom, the VFW donated a very generous and sweet envelope of money to us, again thanks that was so sweet.

A MAJOR like huge thanks to Trapper's II for hosting this event. I can not wait until the next poker and the "Bunco for the Bust" being held there. The staff is fantastic, the food yum and drinks cold! Alyssa was beyond helpful tonight, thanks so so much. My girlfriend Katie, even though she was sick, came down and helped run the desk until I got there! She has been so supportive and tonight would not have happened if she wasn't there. Damn 12 year old concert getting in my fund raising fun way! My hubby who normally stands by my side, was da man! I loved seeing him in stupid dumb breast cancer action, love you TFO.

The winners of the night go to Tom Stedman for 3rd, Rick Volcano for 2nd and Brent Stedman for 1st!! Andy Miller went away with the flat screen TV, I am sure one of his girls will be taking that.. My cousin Tommy won some SU tickets for this weekend, boy I hope he takes my friggin kids. Thanks again for all your generosity! 

Off to see one of my favorite docs.....

Today I meet with my OB/GYN to discuss a hysterectomy. UGH, not looking forward to this surgery, the happy drugs do not even help get me excited. The fact that ovarian cancer and breast cancer run so closely, this needs to be addressed. I have lots of cysts on my ovaries which caused them to do an ablation and some dusting and cleaning ( D & C to the medical world) in April. That combined with hormones leads to a recipe for cancer disaster. I am no where near menopause so the hormones are a major factor. So, now the question is do I or don't I? A hysterectomy is no friggin joke; major fucking roto rooting of my uterus, but the thought of ovarian cancer oh HELLLLLSSS NOOOOO.  The doctor knows best and I love my OB/GYN and the entire staff and I trust they will have my best health in mind. More than likely I will be spending my birthday in January recovering from yet another surgery. I definitely can play this cancer card for 10 years Heather, again thanks Jen:).

I hope you all see that stupid dumb breast cancer does not end with a mastectomy, chemo, radiation or lumpectomy. A lot comes into play. I also think that the choices I make are right for me and my body. These may not be the best for another person fighting the fight. Every doctor has a different path they advise and if you trust your doctor then go with what your doc and gut tell you. I am so happy that I LOVE all my doctors but this is my journey and the roads I am taking to my recovery. I will never recommend a procedure or tell someone what to do. I am here for your bitching adventure and that is all. Afterall, I am just a stay at home mom with stupid dumb breast cancer...what do I know?

Halloween stupid dumb breast cancer style!

Ok so I totally get adults supporting me. My family had no choice and I am pretty sure my friends are afraid of dealing with me if they didn't. But 12 year old kids blow me away. My son Ben's friends are really awesome. His friend Luke rocked Stupid Dumb Breast like no boy will ever. I always loved this kid but WOW!! He is a boy who loves soccer and hanging with his friends yet somehow, some way Stupid Dumb Breast Cancer is on his mind. I believe that this is how we will find a cure, how we will end cancer. Our kids hold it in their hands!


Awesomeness! Then there are these 2 girls. Yes they know people who have been affected by breast cancer so I get why they dressed like this.

But they took it up to a whole new level. They did not get candy on this Halloween. They asked for donations! This was so generous and kind. This is how children become women and men of the future. This is how we end breast cancer. This is how I believe in HOPE. So when you sit back and watch this you will not be able to find negativity in this, if you do, well you lose. I find two girls on a mission, two girls trying to be charitable, two girls who want a CURE, two cure and a boy with HOPE.....and a very LOUD woman who is so proud of this generation!

 

 

Huephoria

My wonderful friends at Huephoria have done it again! They are offering 25% percent of the glass sales to our team CURE OR BUST when you purchase the glass "Hue for a Cure". These beautiful glasses are not only functional but you are supporting local women. Plus, they are donating to stupid dumb breast cancer, LOVE it!! So get your glass today.

http://www.huephoria.com/cure-wine-glass/ is the link, check out their other styles too!

 

 

The end of Breast Cancer awareness month

My dad trying to obey the "no crying rule" before may mastectomy, wasn't easy for anyone.

This is the end of breast cancer awareness month and it made me think (yes that can only mean I need to  blog). BEFORE I got stupid dumb breast cancer I was a huge supporter of this cause, like massive. Just ask any team member of Cure or Bust and they will tell you how hard I tried to raise money for CNY Komen. I have a love for emails especially.  I always wanted the team to focus on the celebration of life, whether it is the lives fighting, surviving or lost I wanted to celebrate their battle, nothing says celebrate more than Jello-O shots! I wanted people to go to the race and be empowered by the pink sea of survivors, to see their family walking next to them to show their support and to see the friends who are wearing tutus honoring their friends. The day is really incredible! Did you register yet? I owned pink tie dyes with ribbons and other paraphernalia to show support. I would have people say to me "When did you have breast cancer?" I would reply "NO NO NO I never had it I am just supporting the cause". I was all about breast cancer awareness before then WTF May 5th came and smacked me.

I had no clue what was going to happen but I knew I wanted to be a survivor. I only told very few about the lump, the mammo and the lumpectomy, why worry anyone when it was probably nothing. I still remember standing in my doctor's office and hearing her say "I had to look at the name 5 times on this pathology report". I knew I had fucking cancer she didn't have to say it. The blog was born! Literally, instantly I wanted it out there. Yes, the photos came after but the idea was brewing.  I wanted to be public about it because that is how I was handling it. I was so scared because yes I knew women who won but I knew so many that died. I lost my mother from tragedy at 1 so the reality of my kids growing up without me was too fucking real. The harsh truth of my dad without my mom scared me for Tom. Death is fucked up and leaves an aftermath of pain that is embedded forever and I did not want that for my people. Plus I sparkle way too much!

So as I post on FaceBook or blog it's my way of spreading awareness of cancer. I want people to be aware of ALL stages and to hear so many different stories. Listen to Jackie, Ashley, Dolores, AnneMarie, Kate, Shari because their story by help you or someone you know. Yes if you actually read through my blog I do talk about other cancers but people I have breast cancer so that is what my focus is. I did not get the "easy" cancer I got CANCER. I was fortunate enough to have caught it early, but still suffering from all it brings. I have scars and surgeries and more doctor's appointments and tests then I ever want for anyone. Easy my ass and I got a big ass! I am doing all this STUPID DUMB BREAST CANCER for all those fighting, being diagnosed, and leaving this earth. I am raising money and awareness for them. I want people to see a small part of my journey and what the harsh reality can be. People walked away for the show with that and more. The pride in my family, my children, husband and friends eyes of being a part of this was awesome! They get it and they are my soapbox from where I yell, very loudly I might add.

 

I am done with the negativity- do not bring it to my page or the posts. I am here to raise awareness. If  you do not like it, I am sure there is another blogger you will like, none with fabulous shoes like me:) But this is not about me, it is about stupid dumb breast cancer and those it affects. I have raised the bar (Pink Stiletto anyone?) in what is expected of the pink ribbon.  November 1st does not end Breast Cancer Awareness month for me because I am aware every time I look in the mirror, I am painfully aware. I hope you all continue to read my blog, post on Face Book and join my Cure or Bust team because I am not stopping. I am not stopping until the pink ribbon is replaced by a pink stiletto!

Results

Some thought I could barely get 200 people at Pascale's, some thought that strangers wouldn't come, some thought they wouldn't drink (Pink Stilettos were sold!!), some thought NO ONE will come (OK the last one was me) but people came!!! So many friendly faces I wish I could have talked to all of you.  Almost all my family (losers better come to the next one!), friends from Albany/Boston/Rochester seeing them made me so happy.  People I have never met but am so thrilled to have now and survivors that all share a special connection. We estimate that close to 600 people came through Pascale's on Sunday, not all at once but at one point it was crowded. Everything went so fabulous, the staff at Pascale's is just incredible. Brian, the girls behind the bar, the extremely tall guy who made me feel dwarf-like, Deb and Neil you guys are all the bomb digity!! I hope that all of you who gave your email address use the $10 gift certificates because the food is incredible. My bouncers kept a tight watch on the door and did not let me down. The t-shirt crew held the back of the bar under control and even sold a TON of bracelets (my Sarah thanks so much sweetie). Nikki did her best to keep my lips nice and glossy. Tom maintained the crowd and even reminded me of some names I forgot, love that guy. Too bad MC was stuck in the back and doesn't know what the hell was going on! And then there is Genevieve...not sure what to say but she amazes me. I was so proud of the images she choose and stunned at how many. It is clear now how much they have helped me and now they have helped so many others who came through. My girlfriend Karen looked at me with tears in her eyes and said "I had no idea what you went through". YESSSS that is exactly what I wanted, the real side of stupid dumb breast cancer, drains, scars, pain, friends, family so much more than a pink ribbon.

I went to the bank and deposited the donations and tickets with such pride. We raised (after expenses like some prints, food) $10,876!!!! I am still getting and accepting donations for this event until the end of the month. So do not hesitate to write that check. This grand total will be divided between Stand up to Cancer and CNY Komen in Cure or Bust's name. Pretty friggin good for a little girl with stupid dumb breast cancer and an idea, right? The shirts and bracelets are still coming in because we have some shirts left over (going FAST!!) but that night we raised $1500, I want pictures of you people wearing those things!!!

I just want to point out that the Face Book page www.facebook.com/stupiddumbbreastcancer has 1354 likes. Every day more and more "LIKE" the page of course some little shits "unlike" it, wtf who unlikes a breast cancer page?? Insane I know, crazier is that people in Mexico, Argentina, England are all liking and talking about the posts. The blog has had OVER 50,000 views with audiences in Canada, Germany, Costa Rica, United Kingdom, Ukraine. I am blown away by these numbers and who I am reaching. I feel like this is such a huge movement. People want to see this real side to breast cancer. It tells me that I need to keep going with this, to infinity and beyond! Next is making Stupid Dumb Breast Cancer a non for profit, it is in the works people. Hard for me to sit still as much as my friends want me too:)

Thanks so much for riding this journey with me, I do not like being alone. I am looking into another show for those who could not attend. I will be posting the slide show too. Please join some of the events better yet ALL the events. Next one is "Stack for Racks" a poker tourney at Trapper's II in Minoa on November 5th, PLEASE let me know ASAP if you want in. I have so many ideas and events there is really something for everyone, no excuses! PLUS, I am sure you all will join my Race for the Cure team Cure or Bust. That race falls 1 year from when I started this fucking journey so I want a celebration to remember. Oh and I will play the "breast cancer" card for the next 10 years, Jen said I could!

Now what??

I stood in that room and felt such a powerful energy; it made me feel confident that I was doing the right thing. Not that I really doubted myself, but the friggin' negative feedback does make you think twice sometimes. My dad was so proud that he was barely able to talk at times, he wears his emotion on his sleeve anyway, but his pride shined and for that I am proud. Everyone keeps asking me, "What do you want people to take from this?" and tonight it was clear. I had so many people say they could not believe this was what stupid dumb breast cancer looks like , they didn't know that this is what happened. This is exactly what I wanted people to see. The incredibly raw, uncensored side to this fucked up disease. The drains with their liquid, the holes in my side, the bandages and the fright in my face all right there in beautiful, powerful images.  I will be posting the slide show soon. Genevieve says, "A good slide show should make you cry." I wonder if mine made people cry?

Thanks so much to everyone who took tickets, set up pictures, sold shirts (still available!), kept my lips glossy, and kept a Pink Stiletto in my hand (now that is a good fucking drink). This night came together not just because I had an idea but because I have family and friends and a community that believes in me. They all know how important this message is and how I am on a crusade to get it heard.

Now what?? Well, there is the "Stacks for Racks" poker night at Trapper's. Great food, awesome atmosphere, poker and prizes what more could you ask for? RACE FOR THE CURE!!! Registration is opened and the race director LOVES when our team signs on. So get on the site and join CURE OR BUST. There are more events coming, do not worry. I have had offers for other restaurants showing the images, another Komen affiliate would like the photos to come to their area and who knows what else!? I would love for more people to see these images, so after my next surgery I will plan something else:) I know just what Nikki is thinking, but I can only sit still for so long!



I hope everyone who came tonight walked away feeling stronger after seeing these images. At least you walk away knowing me better, A LOT better! Thanks for coming out, the support was truly unreal and made me feel like a princess, just what I needed.

A pictures says a thousand words

Tom's favorite image

I have found in looking at these pictures I can truly see the emotions. Some of which I still have not seen, so it will be a roller coaster for me.  Tom was hugging me before I was wheeled away. It was just as intense as this picture shows. I told him "I love you" and he said "See you on the other side", "WTF??? I hope not!" As true as this journey has been emotionally intense, it has also been filled with laughter. I have always been the one cracking jokes at funerals, just trying to make the nervousness dissipate. I also joke when I am nervous, it breaks the ice for me and makes the other person uncomfortable (I like it that way, I am a sick bitch, I know). So when I make inappropriate jokes and comments just know that I mean it with love, blahahahahah (insert evil laugh). I will also be very emotional so be prepared for crying, too. Looks like you will be seeing a little "Sybil" action! Please come with good positive energy and leave your negativity at the door (my bouncers will bounce your ass right outta there). I am in no mood for bullshit, so back off if these pictures "offend" you. I just want people to understand how stupid dumb breast cancer REALLY affects people! Not just the physical and emotional changes, but how, as horrible as it is, it brings people together. My family (because they have no choice and I have 10 years, yes Heather, 10 YEARS to play that card), my friends (because we are bonded by a sisterhood unlike no other and I think they are a little scared of me) and a community (who has given time, resources and money to support this cause) have been the soap box for which I stand! So join me today as I stand up on my soap box to cancer (well really in 6 inch stilettos).

My favorite image, right after surgery with my dad who's smile says it all!

The Pink Stiletto

I thought in my head (yes it is so frightening up there), let's take these images and have a fund raiser with them. BAMMMM done! Now let's sell tickets, really DONE. Sponsors and donors DAAA DAAA DINNNGGG DONG we have a winner, this event could not have happened without their generosity. I picked up the logo board and pamphlets from Usherwood, they did an amazing job. Mike's TV & Appliances is letting us use a flat screen TV for the slideshow, hope we don't break it! I covered media, did I miss a publication??? I tried New York Times but I was too "edgy" for them:). I can not thank ALL the businesses that have helped and supported Stupid Dumb Breast Cancer enough, they have given me HOPE. Please frequent all these business as a thank you. So now, we are finalizing the last few details, mainly my pedicure later today with some fabulous women!

There will be room at Pascale's so please come down ready to fill the restaurant with positive energy. I hope that those who have never been come back to this restaurant and see truly how fantastic it is! Keep in mind it is a cash bar, may I recommend the Pink Stiletto? It is amazing! There will be very light appetizers, the focus is not food, but the fund raising and the images. The restaurant is NOT open Sundays, so after you leave the open house (4pm-7pm) head to the various local restaurants. Papa Gallos, Carrabbas, Bone Fish, or Mulliagn's a variety of places to make everyone happy. Doesn't Fayetteville have it all?!!

Tickets, get your tickets....at the door. If you purchased tickets and did not get them they are at the door. There is a list of people who bought advance sale and the bouncers will be there to help. NOW keep in mind they are not professionals so there maybe so kinks. Everything will work out just please address them with respect and kindness. If you do not have a ticket they are $15 at the door. The bouncers at the door or the t-shirt sale girls will be able to take your donations, too. I am not Ticketmaster so I am apologizing for any mistakes that were made. There will be black t-shirts on sale in the back of Pascale's, these will NOT be made again. Ward Sales on Fayette rushed the order, see them for all your t-shirt printing they are AWESOME! There will be some white ones as well and all shirts are $15.

PARKING!!! Now focus here people, is that there are plenty of spots. You can use the various spots on the street but please you common sense and DO NOT DOUBLE PARK!! I feel silly saying that, but I have been warned. The fantastic owners of Decker's Wine & Spirits said we may use their lot. Miracle's Hair Studio has offered their lot, too, they are simply wonderful! Pascale's Bakehouse has a lot, too, they have an awesome lunch menu, so stop back in there. As long as Fred Astaire's lot is paved we can use that one, too CHA CHA CHA. Do not forget about the Canal Landing and the Town Offices. No little league so those are up for grabs. There are a few handicap spots, if you require more, please let the bouncers know.

I hope that covers the "issues" that may arise. I have learned a lot through this event, a LOT. I have learned that in a community there are lots of people that want to support you and are proud to do so. The local businesses have truly out done themselves in donations, support and sponsorship. This event has been made easier because of their generosity. This is a great community that is helping and supporting one of their own. I have had businesses help just to help, because they had a loved one with stupid dumb breast cancer or because you never know. THANKS to them and you for being part of this.

The Pink Stiletto

 

 

The Pink Stiletto will be at served at Pascale's during 'My Journey Through the Lumps'. Part of the proceeds benefit Stupid Dumb Breast Cancer. It is a delicious blend of Prosecco and pomegranate liquor, enjoy a few! Tickets will be $15 at the door. If you have purchased advance sale see the bouncers they should have your name. Please bring lots of positive energy and big wallets:0) Thanks so much for the support, it still amazes me. It shows HOPE!